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f love and jealousy are correlate； one may be inferred from the other。 What is at work is jealousy； what is to to be shown is love。 That is； the evil in the world is due to jealousy； but this cause would be more difficult to prove than its correlate； love。 And we know how difficult it is to conceal love；so difficult that it has become a popular proverb that when a woman has a paramour； everybody knows it but her husband。 Now； if a crime has been committed through jealousy it would be simply nave to ask whether the woman was jealous。 Jealousy is rare to discover and unreliable； while her love…affair is known to everybody。 Once this becomes an established fact； we can determine also the degree of her jealousy。
Woman gives the expression of her jealousy characteristic direction。 Man attempts to possess his wife solely and without trouble； and hence is naturally jealous。 The deceived woman turns all her hatred on her rival and she excuses the husband if only she believes that she still possesses； or has regained his love。 It will therefore be a mistake to suppose that because a woman has again begun to love her husband； perhaps after a long…enduring jealousy； that no such jealousy preceded or that she had forgiven her rival。 It may be that she has come to an understanding with her husband and no longer cares about the rival； but this is only either mere semblance or temporary； for the first suspicion of danger turns loose the old jealousy with all its consequences。 Here again her husband is safe and all her rage is directed upon her rival。 The typical cases are those of the attacks by abandoned mistresses at the weddings of their lovers。 They always tear the wreath and veil from the bride's head； but it never is said that they knock the groom's top…hat off。
Another characteristic of feminine love which often causes difficulties is the passion with which the wife often gives herself to her husband。 Two such different authors as Kuno Fischer and George Sand agree to this almost verbatim。 The first says： ‘‘What nature demands of woman is complete surrender to man；'' and the second： ‘‘Love is a voluntary slavery for which woman craves by nature。'' Here we find the explanation of all those phenomena in which the will of the wife seems dead beside that of the husband。 If a woman once depends on a man she follows him everywhere； and even if he commits the most disgusting crimes she helps him and is his loyalest comrade。 We simply catalogue the situation as complicity； but we have no statutes for the fact that the woman naturally could do nothing else。 We do not find it easy to discover the accomplices of a man guilty of a crime； but if there is a woman who really loves him we may be sure that she is one of them。
For the same reason women often bear interminably long maltreatment at the hands of their husbands or lovers。 We think of extraordinary motives； but the whole thing is explained if the motive was really feminine love。 It will be more difficult for us to believe in this love when the man is physically and mentally not an object of love。 But the motives of causes of love of woman for man； though much discussed； have never been satisfactorily determined。 Some authorities make strength and courage the motives； but there are innumerable objections； for historic lovers have been weak and cowardly； intellectual rather than foolish； though Schopenhauer says； that intelligence and genius are distasteful to women。 No fixed reasons can be assigned。 We have to accept the fact that a most disgusting man is often loved by a most lovely woman。 We have to believe that love of man turns women from their romantic ideals。 There has been the mistaken notion that only a common crime compels a woman to remain loyally with a thoroughly worthless man； and again； it has been erroneously supposed that a certain woman who refused a most desirable heirloom left her by a man； must have known of some great crime committed by him。 But we need no other motive for this action than her infinite love； and the reason of that infinity we find in the nature of that love。 It is； in fact； woman's life； whereas it is an episode in the life of man。 Of course； we are not here speaking of transitory inclinations； or flirtations； but of that great and profound love which all women of all classes know； and this love is overmastering； it conquers everything； it forgives everything； it endures everything。
There is still another inexplicable thing。 Eager as man is to find his woman virgin； woman cares little about the similar thing in man。 Only the very young； pure； inexperienced girl feels an instinctive revulsion from the real rou